Kyle Michelle Weddings Blog
The movie Maid of Honor came out in 2008 and I thought, for certain, that there would be a surge of brides having their brothers, male friends, etc. be their BridesMEN (as we like to call them). We hadn’t seen it until our last two weddings.
In our first wedding the “Bridesmen” were close friends of the bride who have been by her side for years. Our second bride had her three brothers stand up next to her, one was even her actual Maid of Honor who dutifully held her bouquet during the ceremony (literally the closest, sweetest family…EVER).
We so often mention how weddings are becoming less and less traditional in each couples own way. Having Bridesmen is definitely one of the least traditional and most unique elements to a wedding we have seen so far.
In the past, if a bride had a really close brother or guy friend the couple would have him stand on the groom’s side to be a part of the wedding. We say, if you have a brother or friend who you want by your side on YOUR special day…do it!! And no, they don’t have to wear a dress!
Would you have your best guys stand up as your Bridesmen?
photo by Kevin York Photography
Anytime my Mom, Kristin and I get together our conversation inevitably turns to the topic of my wedding. I got married 16 months ago and with all the weddings Kristin and I have had the great pleasure of planning since then, we have found so many more great and unique ideas that make us say, “Dang, this is so cool! I wish we would have thought of this for “our” wedding!”. Yes, Kristin always referred to my wedding as “our” wedding,…a little back roots!?
The thing that has had me in awe the most is seeing our brides have both their father and mother walk them down the aisle (my biggest, “Dang, this is so cool!”). Don’t get me wrong; I love Dads, but what about Moms on her daughter’s special day?? The Dads get all the glory with walking their girls down the aisle and the father/daughter dance. Within all of the tradition, Mom gets nothin’!
Moms are typically the ones who help plan the wedding. They are there for picking out the dress, the venue, and helping with making decision on décor. But once the day is here, it’s as if Moms are no longer important. Thanks for all the hard work Mom, but Dad’s getting all the glory.
So Kristin and I started to think. What are some fun ways to incorporate Mothers into their daughters Big Day? My favorite by far that we have seen is both the Mother and Father walking their daughter down the aisle. Duh! Why wouldn’t you?? Both Mom and Dad helped raise you, both should give you away! In so many ceremonies we see tradition becoming the exception, not the rule (our most recent couple walked INTO the wedding together...SO COOL!!!).
photo by Kevin York Photography
More and more frequently we have seen where the Mothers are honored with a flower during the ceremony, which is a great gesture and turns the attention to the mothers. A lot of times when brides are getting dressed and putting on their jewelry it is the maid of honor and bridesmaids who help her get dressed. We love the idea of instead of the bridesmaids, having the Mother of the Bride be the one to share in those simple, but extremely important moments (and the great pictures!). We had a bride who had all of her bridesmaids and her mother in her room getting ready and she took a moment to say a toast to her mother. Simple moments shared on a really big day.
At my wedding I had my father daughter dance that was solely a duet. My husband on the other hand, asked for other couples to join he and his mother on the dance floor (not one for too much attention). I grabbed the first family friend I could see. Looking back, I wish I had grabbed my mom.
We love seeing more and more ways for mothers to be incorporated on their daughter’s special day. We look forward to seeing many more!
How would or did you include your Mother on your special day?