Kyle Michelle Weddings Blog
Every time I meet new people, I feel like I am always waiting for the programed question of “What do you do for a living”. Telling people you’re a wedding planner always gets such great reactions. “Oh my gosh! I bet that is so much fun!” “Do you have a lot of Bridezillas?” And my all time favorite, “So, you’re like Jennifer Lopez in The Wedding Planner?”
The last always makes me laugh! Well, if you’re referring to how awesome she is at her job – then yes! If you’re referring to how glamorous she looked during the weddings; in dresses, 6 inch heels, hair down, make up perfect – then no.
Sweaty messes during set up - But we can clean up nicely!
Don’t get me wrong; there are a ton of different definitions of a wedding planner. There are the Jennifer Lopez planners like Kevin Lee of LA Premier who manage your entire wedding. You as a couple never see or hear from the vendors until they show up on your day.
For most planners, ourselves included, a lot of our couples aren’t completely hands off. Do we do weddings that have more expendable budgets? Yes! And yes, we do weddings with less of a budget to work with. What we want to do for our couples (of all budgets) is have them invest in us and in turn we save them more money then they devoted to us.
Brides and Grooms-to-be are busy! They have full time jobs, which asks 40-60 hours a week of their time. Believe it or not, planning your wedding becomes a full-time job. Vendors want to meet you during the week (when most people are unavailable) because on the weekends they are working weddings or other events. As planners, our full time job is planning your wedding. We have the time to seek out the best options and the best bang for your buck.
We work 12-14 hour days for our couples; we sweat, climb, crawl, design, set up, and break down. We aren’t often the construction foremen – we are the women with the hammers and drills. Most importantly, we are planners for the couples with a more conservative budget as well as the couple’s whose budget is more liberal.
So can you afford a wedding planner? Simple answer…YES!!!
There’s something that we lost in the tradition of tangible mail that a mailman delivers. That personal touch, that excitement you get when walking out to your mailbox wasn’t just to receive the 30 mailers sent to The Current Resident. There is also something we gained. In a society that has been groomed to wait for nothing (patients has become less of a virtue) E-Mail has saved the day!
We have become accustom to needing an immediate gratification (I want it now, Daddy!). So, E-Mail allows us to fill this charge. Here’s the catch…people don’t always answer right away (and the shakes commence).
Most people, especially those in business, receive their E-Mails to their phones. I assume there is a great percentage of “civilians” who also receive their E-Mails to their phones; personal and job E-Mail. So knowing that E-Mail has become the fastest way to connect with people and a better choice than a phone call for someone to inquire (I don’t want to be sold, just answer my questions…please!), we have become obsessed with returning E-Mails we receive quickly.
What truly amazes me is the response we get from clients/potential clients because we answer so promptly. They always seemed shocked and grateful that we got back to them (doesn’t everyone?). We are in the customer service business, we are asking people to trust us with one of the most important days in their lives. A lot of time, energy and most importantly money are spent on this day and if I can’t trust you to answer my inquiry E-Mail, how do I trust you with coordinating an entire day? Even if we aren’t available on a date that a bride-to-be is looking at for, we write a quick response to let them know so they can mark us off the list and continue their planning process.
We admit that we may be a little obsessed with making sure we answer E-Mails right away, even those received at midnight from our Brides on the West Coast (I may have even been guilty of answering an email that I received at 3:00am, from a West Coast Bride, at 3:30am…we had an early flight, I was up!). But, in all seriousness, Brides-to-be think about their weddings 24/7, even the ones who tell us from the beginning they aren’t girly girls, so why shouldn’t we as their planners take the entire journey with them?
We attended a great bridal event, by Bouche Productions, this past weekend at The Haddonfield Fortnightly in Haddonfield NJ. We were excited to meet all the brides, some who were towards the end of their planning, heading into the home stretch and one bride had gotten engaged on Monday prior to the event. Attending bridal shows is a great way to meet local vendors, talk face to face and even see some of their products as well as their competition. Being a wedding planner, we are basically selling ourselves, a service that we can tell you about and a service that frankly many brides feel they can do without! So for our table we set up displays of unique, what we like to call "Details". In every wedding there is a ceremony, a cocktail hour, a reception; eating and dancing. What makes a wedding unique are all the details. Meghan and I love the detail portion of a wedding. The details pull the entire event together, uniting a common color, theme or ambiance. Meghan and I also know that the details can be very expensive and that's where we come in! The important things are your dress, venue, food, entertainment and photographer! That's where you should spend the majority of your budget. The details should be a small fraction! When we set out to start our business we had a few things in mind, one being that we could offer brides our unique ideas paired with our thriftiness. Thus, leaving them to spend more on the important things. Now, with that being said, I must add that in spending so much on the important things, how can you not afford to hire someone to make sure it all comes together. That's where we come in again! Because you plan your wedding so far in advance, the likelihood that the coordinator at your venue will no longer be employed, is quite high. In fact, during Meghan's wedding planning process we went through three different venue coordinators, each time having to reiterate everything. Not to mention that the coordinator never really knew Meghan and was never invested in making sure her day went perfectly! Having a wedding planner would ensure your day was just as you envisioned. We can also offer you numerous examples of wedding day disasters, there always seem to be at least one. This past weekend we arrived at the venue at 10:00am to find the linens being delivered. Upon opening them we also noticed they were wrong!!!! As we debated what to do the delivery men walked back into the room just in time. They called the warehouse and sent more linens that arrived just in time for the tables to be set. Back in August we arrived at a hotel and collected the flowers from the florist. As we double checked the needed flowers for the wedding party and ceremony we noticed that there were two missing Jr. Bridesmaid bouquets and two missing roses for the parent's of the bride and groom. As the bride finished getting ready we dismantled her "throw away bouquet" and using our emergency kit, fixed the problem. We also had a wedding that needed pipe and drape added to the venue. It was on the contract but as the day went on, no one was putting it up. As the ceremony time was fast approaching I tracked down the venue coordinator and "reminded" them of the pipe and drape. Come to find out they completely forgot and had to call the service men back to the venue to have it put up! I really can't imagine the brides face if she were to have arrived at the venue with no pipe and drape! My point, don't trust that everyone will do as they say they will. When a venue coordinator says they will make sure everything gets done, rest assured when the day comes, and they have your money, they will be nowhere to be found! When a DJ has no idea how to pronounce your wedding parties names, rest assured he won't go and ask. When the flowers arrive wrong, rest assured they won't take them back and fix them. When the limo company doesn't show up, rest assured they don't care that you have to squeeze your dress into a friends Ford Focus. And rest assured, that when you hire a wedding planner that you trust, like Kyle Michelle Weddings, we will take care of it all, leaving you none the wiser! Vendors provide a product-we provide a service and our service is focused on you!!!!!